INDIVIDUALS WHO WERE NOT BAD, THEY WERE ILL - LOOK OUT FOR THE COMMON THEMES
A SEEMINGLY DESPERATE SITUATION
Brought up in a family culture of recreational heavy drinking and other substances and by mid 40s had been to residential rehab twice. A one-off PTSD catastrophic life changing injury took this individual to a hopeless state. Our twelve-day action plan involved our chartered psychologist, beathing expert, two addictions counsellors, and Paul’s assistance to understand the steps in, and likely length of, the legal compensation claim, with the input from a specialist and reputable catastrophic injury law firm.
AN EDUCATION LOST
A promising undergraduate who became highly dual dependent after dabbling in drink and drugs and dropped out of university. Unemployed when we became involved and turned from a depressed foul mouthed early thirties person, with no future they could see, into the likeable individual they always were over the course of eight days with input from two different addictions specialists and special attention from Shig Hayre to help this person understand the lifestyle, about which the family were worried about, was symptomatic of an illness. A real transformation – driving test passed and life back on track.
A WELL BROUGHT UP YOUNGSTER WHO LOST THEIR WAY
Plagued by two significant tragedies and employment which surrounded them with alcohol, this fine polite individual sank to consuming a large bottle of spirits daily and misused sedatives acquired via the internet. Our four-hour assessment mainly focussed on education of the destructive behaviour and enlightenment of what life could offer. Followed by several days of therapy on family issues and, crucially, real life training. A success story who in a very short immersive time period now leads a different life with a different view of the world.
THE HIGH ACHIEVING SUCCESSFUL BUSINESSPERSON
To the outside world this person had everything most people want, with a superficially calm and pleasant manner but was dying inside from the day by day, year on year pressure of employing staff, to keep them in work, the demands that running a continual profitable company brings meant that this person became exhausted and became unable to function. The business suffered - business partners felt let down and their once concerned attitude turned into one of anger to see profits falling. Health deteriorated and this person couldn’t see the point of continuing the hard work from humble beginnings to a financial wealth position that had been created by an honest attitude and a business that ultimately caused family members to suffer and become estranged. A very unhappy and unhealthy twenty- four seven drinker needed ten days of rest, refocus and re-energise with two different counsellors and particular and ongoing attention and advice from Shig. Family relationships have improved, and this person now realises the value of rest, work, delegation and balance.
THE INTELLECTUAL ACADEMIC
Renowned in their specialist field, with a crumbling reputation ultimately caused by defining their standing by how much they knew rather than who they were. An avid reader with a large and varied library and fine brain that became fuddled, who could not see a way out of the dilemma they had created by various sorts of escapism; impeded by the thought they should have all the answers. The feelings of both superiority and inadequacy needed to be addressed by a six-day immersion to adjust a way of thinking that became destructive. Recognising the illness, counselling on an unresolved childhood trauma and reconfiguring a train of thought to show a way out. Our discreet and confidential home service meant the outside world didn’t know about the problems that became very visible to the family.
THE AVERAGE PERSON AND THE VICIOUS CYCLE
Spouse, children, job, mortgage, holidays, Christmas but this person didn’t enjoy their job – it became a perpetual curse which infected every aspect of their life. Parents ‘evenings and other family activities diminished, arguments increased & the children’s’ studies and results suffered. So, from what began as a Friday night and week-end ritual it became a daily occurrence leading to being asleep in family time more than being awake and once biologically dependent on alcohol work attendance was irregular which meant less pay more worries and drinking was the only answer – apparently. Three days’ natural detox was required, once clear headed two counsellors for three and two days each, one with a specialism for alcohol in the family unit and advice on general stress relief and anxiety with useful practical steps to avoid the future need to take alcohol as a “medicine “ of choice.